CHJ
Established Member
Unfortunately I still see more rhetoric than factual debate from some quarters in this well intentioned thread.
I personally believe that a large percentage of the population that receive benefits or social subsidies of one form or another could well get themselves out of the situation if they had the ambition to do so.
Most is a matter of setting personal or family priorities.
For my family it was.
Work all hours that were available for the both of us in whatever job or spare time work available in houses, fields, local show grounds etc. including so called holiday time for nearly two years to get a deposit for a house as social or company housing was not available.
Go without most house contents like carpets, televisions, telephones, going out on the town socialising in the evenings, etc, for 5 years + so that we could pay the bills without credit, still taking every opportunity to work whatever hours and 2nd & 3rd. casual jobs where available regardless of hourly pay.
Limit the number of children until we had enough combined income to support them.
Forgo any Family holidays for thirty + years, other than the low end of rural UK camping with the cheapest of tenting.
Allocate all non essential bill paying cash to further the children's education and life experiences.
Only after children cleared university did personal income get diverted to holidays outside UK, the first not associated with staying with a family member based in Europe was for our 40th wedding anniversary celebration.
So from my perspective it's a case of setting personal targets and priorities, if in a hole develop a way to get out of it, not keep digging ever deeper waiting for someone else to earn enough to pay taxes to provide unending support or wave a magic wand, because that just isn't going to happen any time soon and is only providing a very bad example to the next generation.
And yes there are folks in the wider family group who live on benefits by choice.
One deliberately got pregnant, father undeclared, and manipulated homelessness to get social housing.
A widowed mother who is bringing up unwanted deserted grandchildren with the support of great grandparents.
Another who we helped buy their first house rather than them pay exorbitant rentals, rewired it and re-plumbed it for free and who in the intervening years has just continued to let the place fall to pieces and live off various charities or the state rather than keep it in good order and move up the housing market.
The only positive result that has come from the last mentioned group is that Our family group has a solid example of how not to conduct your life.
I personally believe that a large percentage of the population that receive benefits or social subsidies of one form or another could well get themselves out of the situation if they had the ambition to do so.
Most is a matter of setting personal or family priorities.
For my family it was.
Work all hours that were available for the both of us in whatever job or spare time work available in houses, fields, local show grounds etc. including so called holiday time for nearly two years to get a deposit for a house as social or company housing was not available.
Go without most house contents like carpets, televisions, telephones, going out on the town socialising in the evenings, etc, for 5 years + so that we could pay the bills without credit, still taking every opportunity to work whatever hours and 2nd & 3rd. casual jobs where available regardless of hourly pay.
Limit the number of children until we had enough combined income to support them.
Forgo any Family holidays for thirty + years, other than the low end of rural UK camping with the cheapest of tenting.
Allocate all non essential bill paying cash to further the children's education and life experiences.
Only after children cleared university did personal income get diverted to holidays outside UK, the first not associated with staying with a family member based in Europe was for our 40th wedding anniversary celebration.
So from my perspective it's a case of setting personal targets and priorities, if in a hole develop a way to get out of it, not keep digging ever deeper waiting for someone else to earn enough to pay taxes to provide unending support or wave a magic wand, because that just isn't going to happen any time soon and is only providing a very bad example to the next generation.
And yes there are folks in the wider family group who live on benefits by choice.
One deliberately got pregnant, father undeclared, and manipulated homelessness to get social housing.
A widowed mother who is bringing up unwanted deserted grandchildren with the support of great grandparents.
Another who we helped buy their first house rather than them pay exorbitant rentals, rewired it and re-plumbed it for free and who in the intervening years has just continued to let the place fall to pieces and live off various charities or the state rather than keep it in good order and move up the housing market.
The only positive result that has come from the last mentioned group is that Our family group has a solid example of how not to conduct your life.