We should maybe go back to basics, which I should probably have done at the beginning. I am so used to doing this that i have neglected some points which you probably wont know having not done it before. When you tin your iron you should get a nice very shiny even surface. If you just leave it on and watch what happens, you will see that the solder starts to rapidly lose its shine, and a crusty area of brown muck forms above the working area of the tip. This is because with continued heating both the solder and flux start to oxidise. So each time you go to use the iron you need to wipe the tip to remove this. Many irons come with a little sponge that is dampened and used to wipe the tip. I have never been a fan of this idea. I cant see anything good about applying very hot metal to a cold wet sponge. Most pros I have known dry wipe. I just use a piece of folded linen, or ajs suggestion of denim is good. Just dont use anything synthetic or it will melt! The scummy layer that forms around the iron immediately above the working part of the tip is quite normal, and unavoidable, just wipe it away if it becomes excessive. My best guess is that the problem you are having is probably due to the flux perhaps not being suitable. It may be getting too hot and burning, or not hot enough. Cored solder is really designed for electronics and the flux doesnt need to be very aggresive atall. For what you are trying to do it will probably need a bit of help. I prefer paste as it is easier to control exactly where you put it than with liquid. I must emphasise you only need the tiniest amount. If you cut a slice of sigle flux core solder 1.5mm in diameter you will find the hole in the middle for the flux is probably only 0.3 or so in diameter, this gives you some idea of how little you need. When it melts the solder will flow wherever the flux is, so too much flux and the solder will spread out away from your joint.