You can also use your old phones as CCTV or just for video for remote viewing using something like the AlfredCam app. Before I had this 3D printer with built in camera I used an old phone to monitor the printer from another room or down the pub.
My 11 year old niece has a smartphone- im angry
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I've skipped a lot so forgive me if I'm repeating. I volunteer with an organisation that teaches personal safety to kids, including mobile phones. The rules are really quite simple, conceptually.
1. It's not her phone.
It's your phone, that you're paying for, and you are loaning it too her on the understanding that you will be checking it frequently. Is she doesn't accept this, take the phone off her.
2. No phones overnight. End of.
Be it from 9pm to 8am, whatever. The phone has to be charged up in the kitchen (which also ensures its availability for you to check it). If she doesn't accept this rule, take the phone off her.
3. No one is allowed to take her phone from her, ever. No one is allowed to stop her from phoning you, ever. This obviously excludes school or other locations where it is agreed that phones are banned.
4. You have a code word which if she calls you with or texts you, you drop everything and go get her immediately, with no questions asked (until the next day, anyway!). It might be "I forgot granny's cake".
Everything else is about controlling her, which is a losing battle because she'll just do what she wants without telling you and then she'll be 18 and not talking to you about this stuff. This app or that app, this many hours or that many... Keep it simple, be consistent, be strong, let her be a stupid teenager but provide a security blanket.
This is not to support giving 11 year old phones. But the cat's out of the bag now so...
Hope this helps
John C
1. It's not her phone.
It's your phone, that you're paying for, and you are loaning it too her on the understanding that you will be checking it frequently. Is she doesn't accept this, take the phone off her.
2. No phones overnight. End of.
Be it from 9pm to 8am, whatever. The phone has to be charged up in the kitchen (which also ensures its availability for you to check it). If she doesn't accept this rule, take the phone off her.
3. No one is allowed to take her phone from her, ever. No one is allowed to stop her from phoning you, ever. This obviously excludes school or other locations where it is agreed that phones are banned.
4. You have a code word which if she calls you with or texts you, you drop everything and go get her immediately, with no questions asked (until the next day, anyway!). It might be "I forgot granny's cake".
Everything else is about controlling her, which is a losing battle because she'll just do what she wants without telling you and then she'll be 18 and not talking to you about this stuff. This app or that app, this many hours or that many... Keep it simple, be consistent, be strong, let her be a stupid teenager but provide a security blanket.
This is not to support giving 11 year old phones. But the cat's out of the bag now so...
Hope this helps
John C
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Read the link, neither of those give you Parental Responsibility. If she were to move abroad with your child, there isn't a thing you can do about it. If the child needs an operation, transplant, whatever, you have no say. Schooling? you have no say. The list goes on and on. I speak from experience.
I think this covers it:
Unmarried parents
An unmarried father can get parental responsibility for his child in 1 of 3 ways:- jointly registering the birth of the child with the mother (from 1 December 2003)
Apologies, I appear to have skip-read my own link! Dec 2003 huh, well that could have saved me a couple of grand if I'd held on two years. Either way, nice to see the law has been changed, and for once in the Fathers best interests.
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