Hi
I'm using reddiseals plastic parting and qwood staff bead which clips in to a plastic insert.
Brush pile in parting and staff beads is reddiseals 5.5mm for gaps 1.5-2.5mm and reddiseals flexislide sliding seal down the side
My stiles are 56mm wide and the distance between staff and parting is also 56mm. However I machine a rebate 3mm deep by about 18mm adjacent to the parting bead, so the stile has 3mm overall clearance for the brush either side. Doing this also closes the gap at the meeting rails, which I'm sealing with a double pile - one on each sash.
I'm using accoya which is very stable so can use small clearances. You might need a bit more if you're using e.g. redwood.
If you look on mumford's website you can download their drawings for "inspiration"