There are some helpful options above. To me, you have all the abrasives in your kit that you will ever need, and unless there is something wrong with them, they should provide perfectly good results. I wouldn't go buying anything else just yet. Maybe try each grit individually to begin with starting with the 400. Honing at 30 degrees using 400 grit should result in a fairly sharp tool. Wood maybe be a better test subject than hairs
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As a very part-time hobby woodworker, I usually have a flurry of making, then leave it alone for a period before the next project. Probably because of this, I have found that I get my best results using an (eclipse-type) honing guide and that is what I will stick with as it suits me and I'm never in a huge hurry. I use a fine DMT stone which is about 1200 grit and that hones to a pretty good edge in a few strokes. Then I use a 4000 grit waterstone if I want to get a good finish or I'm planing thin boards e.g. on a guitar or cutting dovetails etc.
It looks like you are trying the various option so you will get there in the end and find the best process for you. IMHO a simple honing guide doesn't add much time to the process - few seconds - and gives a reproducible result, especially if you are not in the workshop every day and is a good place to start as it'll provide a reference for the angle you are aiming for. A 30mm chisel (or a plane iron) sounds like a good tool to practice with as it'll be more stable than, say, a 6mm chisel and you will be able to see the result more easily. In the end, sharp enough is sharp enough and depends on what you are trying to achieve with wood.
Oh, just realised that all of your questions have been answered, oh well LOL.