This is why we simply delete those posts that flout the petty silly rules, because pendants insist on banging on about a point that that they don't agree with when it has already been explained.
The petty silly rules as you call them were put in place by the person that set up the forum. Without sounding flippant, If you do not like the rules then you have two choices, approach the subject with the powers that be, (not a moderator) and discuss, or go somewhere else.
my personal opinion regarding Peters post, is this - he knows what the rules are, and need not suggest others flout them. If he wants to help the lady in question he simply needed to post along the lines of ' widow disposing of tools please contact me for further details'. Everyone's happy, including the moderators who need to uphold the petty silly rules and then don't need to enter into time wasting discussion with pendants.