Rafezetter - much as I sympathise with you and agree with all your points, in my experience with eBay and PayPal you are on a hiding to nothing. You are forgetting the eBay rules.
Rule 1 - eBay exists for the benefit of eBay
Rule 2 - eBay is always right
Rule 3 - go to Rule 1
I have my PayPal account tied to a separate dedicated bank account that only ever has 10p in it. As soon as I get funds from PayPal, they get withdrawn straight to that bank account and then from there to my main bank account.