Personally, I would only bid what I could afford to loose. If I was planning to pay a lot of money for something I would go and look at it before bidding and, even then, it comes with some risk.
I'd be pretty hacked off if somebody bid for something that I had advertised and then appeared to have cold feet about it afterwards by asking a load of questions. I think I'd be keeping the second highest bidder sweet for fear that the sale was, otherwise, about to collapse.
As to the first, again the timeframe of ebay means sometimes you've just got to throw a bid on; and you're forgetting distance, if it was easy for him to go see it, I'm sure RobinBHM would have, he's not stupid
To the second, again ebay timeframes, blah blah etc etc. - Asking questions IS NOT "cold feet", just prudent when dealing with ebay sellers. Worst case if the seller isnt forthcoming he doesnt pay and the seller has to relist it - and I would also say to RobinBHM if the seller tries to get a "non payer" mark against you I would appel on the grounds the seller ignored your attempts to communicate.
There are MULTIPLE INHERENT RISKS with selling on a platform like ebay and ANYONE who's ever sold on it will know that, and this is one of them, also as you pointed out a seller can now offer to the second bidder (which they couldn't before some years back), so the risk now is even smaller than it was before - but "keeping the second bidder sweet" just how would you do that? Tell them the winner is pulling out, without proof to the fact (only your paranoid assumptions) and then said second bidder gets thier hopes up, only to be dashed when RobinBHM makes good?
Worst case if RobinBHM does pull out because the answers he gets are not to his liking and feels bad he can offer to paypal gift the listing fees etc etc. If the guy doesnt respond, then as a seller it's his own fault and he can eat the fees himself and hopefully learn a lesson.
Get a grip people, this is EBAY not bloody Sothebys! Sheesh!
Edit: Can write stupid and *******, can't write i d i o t even though they mean the same thing - go figure.
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